Heading out to work when you have a family is never easy. As a mum, it’s likely you want to be available for your kids at all times of the day. But, in modern households, the option to stay at home as a parent is becoming increasingly difficult. Instead, you may find that you’re facing the prospect of returning to work.
The good news is, there are flexible working options out there. Shift-based jobs are ideal for mums as they should allow you to be there for your kids when you need to be. Equally, remote working is perfect for ensuring you can answer the phone should the school ring. That said, there are plenty of jobs out there which could impact your family balance if you aren’t careful. What’s worse, it’s all too easy to miss the signs that work is affecting your family life. But, if you notice any of the following, it might be time to make a change.
You’re working long hours
In many jobs, the hours may seem reasonable when you start but soon spiral out of control. In many positions, overtime and extra work are part and parcel of the role. But, that won’t suit your parental position for obvious reasons. If you notice your workload increasing, address the issue before it gets too extreme. Signs that this is becoming a problem include having to get friends to pick up the kids or being asked to come in early on a regular basis. If you catch the problem early and stick to your guns, you may be able to stop this from impacting your family life. If not, it may be worth looking for a position which suits your needs better.
You’re facing risks on a daily basis
As mothers, we worry about our health as much as our children’s. After all, you have a responsibility, and a drive to stay in the best health possible. If you find yourself regularly facing risks at work, this could be hard to keep on top of. It may be that the job itself involves heavy equipment or dangerous chemicals. Or, it may be a case of your employer not taking the care they should over your working environment. If the job role is the issue, there’s nothing you can do but move on. If, however, your employer isn’t meeting necessary safety standards, it’s worth pointing them in the direction of something like this health and safety procedure guide for employers. If they still don’t make changes, you’d be within your rights to seek legal representation. It may seem extreme, but it’s the best chance you have of keeping your jobs without risking your ability to care for your family.
You’re working in the evenings
Even once you start working, you may want to dedicate evenings to family time. This will become especially important now that you have limited time together. Only, you can’t make the most of that time because you have work to do in the evenings. It isn’t unusual for our day jobs to encroach on our home time. Often, we’ll have work to prepare for the next day, or pieces to finish from the day behind us. But, this is ill-suited to family life. After all, you can’t appreciate your time together if you have your head in a computer. One fantastic way around this would be to arrange your work days so you can get everything done at the office. If not, consider accepting a position which you can leave behind you when you head out the door. Retail work and other roles like it are ideal for this. You can’t serve customers when you aren’t at a till, after all.
You’re snapping without meaning to
Pay attention, as well, to how stress levels are impacting your family relationships. If you snap anytime your kids ask for something, it’s a sign work is stressing you out too much. In some ways, that’s no surprise. Holding down a job and home is far from easy. But, speaking sharply to your family could damage happiness at home. And, that’s more important than your job role any day. You could attempt to tackle this with calming techniques such as fast fire meditations. Or, you might want to ask about cutting back your hours. Either way, something’s got to give, and that thing should never be your family’s happiness. It’s down to you to ensure this doesn’t become a problem you struggle to get back from.
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